Why is it that some folks come out of difficult / dangerous situations devastated, and others come out enriched? I argue the difference is resiliency. Spiritual, physical, emotional, financial resiliency. Resiliency is defined as the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties. It is not some abstract concept. It is something that can be pursued, and obtained.
To be resilient, folks must have a belief in some greater good. They must be assured that there is something out there that will help them thru difficult times. That is a personal decision, For me, I am a Christian. I study the Bible everyday and believe what God’s Word tells me. I ask God daily for the strength, courage and wisdom to do what He wants me to do that day. Joshua 1:9 tells me “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid, do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”
To be resilient, folks must be in great physical condition. They must be able to physically endure difficult tasks. This will give them stamina and endurance. This can only be obtained by working out, both aerobic and anaerobic activity. There is no pill you can take….just dedicated hard work.
To be resilient, folks must have a great support group that provides emotional support. Family and friends are most important. There must be a support group who helps you thru difficult times, who you can call when you need someone to talk to. There must be confidence that there will be folks who will always be there for you. Again, this can be obtained. Develop relationships. Be kind and gentle to folks. Be the best you can be…the best husband / wife, father / mother, sister / brother. Follow the golden rule and only do onto others what you would have them do onto you.
And finally, to be resilient folks must have their financial affairs in order. Don’t be in debt. Don’t spend more than you have. Plan out a budget and stick to it. Debt is like a dark cloud that is always hanging over your head. It is self imposed misery. Know the difference between wants and needs. Ask yourself three questions before any purchase: (1) Do I really need it? (2) Is it worth the cost ? and (3) What am I willing to do without?